When choosing a funeral home, consider friends and family with physical impairments. A funeral is an important event and no one should miss one because of disabilities.
When our building was built in 1930 little thought was given to making it accessible to everyone. Twenty-six years ago we made major improvements to our funeral home with two goals in mind. We wanted more room so we enlarged our chapel area by adding a new addition. The other goal was to make our building handicapped accessible.
We installed a ramp on the front of the building. Inside, in a convenient location, we installed a restroom that will easily accommodate a wheelchair. By raising the drive we removed all of the steps on the north side of the building and installed a spacious new canopy. There are no longer steps to the family room entrance or steps for the pallbearers when they are carrying the casket to the hearse.
Attitudes have changed. People have always been concerned about what would happen to their families when they die but now they are doing something about it.
More families are considering pre-planning and putting aside money for final expenses. Bookstores are filled with books telling you how to pass your estate on to your heirs and having a “living trust” is as common as having a will. It is part of a new attitude people have about facing the inevitable and taking care of things while they are healthy and of sound mind. Just as buying life insurance does not hasten death neither does making funeral pre-arrangements.
Many people think it is a good idea to make funeral pre-arrangements but just don’t get around to doing it. When they finally do make the arrangements, they feel a sense of relief. Their family will be grateful and relieved too. You have taken a burden off their shoulders.
A new experience can sometimes be unsettling and fill you with apprehension. If that new experience involves making “at need” funeral arrangements, the apprehension can be magnified because not only are you dealing with a new experience, you are dealing with grief over the loss of a loved one. It is always better to be prepared. Of course, funeral pre-arrangements would make a big difference but in real life we sometimes have to deal with a situation that is what it is.
At some point in your life you will probably be involved in making funeral arrangements. Knowing exactly what to expect and being familiar with the surroundings and procedures can significantly allay apprehension.
You are always welcome to tour our funeral home. We will be glad to answer your questions and explain everything that is involved in making funeral arrangements. Let us know when a tour would be convenient for you, or take our virtual tour at https://goo.gl/maps/S788Ccde9Zm
Summer is about over and it is time to start thinking about heading south for the winter. Thoughts have turned to renewing friendships you have made in your “home away from home” and you have all kinds of things to take care of before you leave.
If you are making your “to do” list, you might want to consider letting your family know what your wishes are in case the unthinkable happens. An unexpected death can leave a family bewildered as to what to do. It is helpful for the family to know what to do.
If the death occurs out of town, many people’s natural reaction is to call a local funeral home. That is not really the best thing to do. The best thing to do is to call your home town funeral director. It’s better to call a person you know and trust, rather than an unfamiliar one, picked at random. One phone call is all it takes. We know exactly what must be done. We will take care of everything.
Next Monday is Labor Day. To most of us it means the start of football, school, club meetings and no more white shoes. It is time to shift gears and get back to a normal routine.
Labor Day is a federal holiday set aside to honor the men and women who work hard every day. There is nothing more satisfying than having a job that you love to do and get paid for doing it. Not everyone is lucky enough to have their dream job but there is satisfaction in every job, the satisfaction of knowing you have given your all and you have done your job well. If people describe you as a “hard worker” that is something to be proud of.
This country was literally built by “hard workers”. People want to work, they need to work. Regulations that encourage factories to move out of the country need to be changed to give today’s “hard workers” a chance to bring back a robust economy to the United States.
We have come across an excellent booklet called, “Answers to a Child’s Questions about Death”. This booklet has illustrations with questions and answers in a language most youngsters can understand. The concepts covered are well within most children’s grasp.
Here are examples of some of the questions. Why do people die? Does death hurt? Is death like sleeping? Where do dead people go? Why are people buried when they die? It helps if children talk about what they are feeling and this book helps them feel okay about asking questions.
Although this booklet incorporates basic Judeo-Christian concepts, it does not reflect a specific religious point of view. You might consider introducing this book to your child when an acquaintance, but not someone close, dies. Then, in the future, if someone close does die, your child may feel more comfortable talking about the loss. Feel free to pick up a copy.
When a child loses a parent, the child naturally worries about the family, how will they manage? Will everything change? What is going to happen to them? The child needs constant reassurance that the family will be all right.
When a parent dies, children are often worried about the surviving parent, afraid that he or she might also die. It is important to be predictable, be on time and be there when your child expects you. Don’t give your child a reason to worry about you. A child may hide his feelings because he doesn’t want to worry you. Even if your child seems okay, keep reminding him that the family is going to be all right.
As time passes, the apprehension will diminish and your child will regain some of the sense of security that was enjoyed before the death of a parent. Reassure your child that he will always be taken care of and will always be loved no matter what.