“For Everything There is a Season: Showing Respect…”

It has been the custom in our part of the country to pull off to the side of the highway and stop when we see an oncoming funeral procession.  It is the way we were taught to show respect for the dead and the grieving family and friends.

In the last few years, this practice has become rather dangerous.  There are some drivers who are in too much of a hurry. They become impatient and try to maneuver their cars between the cars that have pulled over in respect of the oncoming funeral procession.  It’s very disrespectful.

I am going to take it upon myself to recommend to you that unless you can safely pull all the way off the highway onto the shoulder, that you simply reduce your speed to show your respect.  I know this will make some of you uncomfortable, but I think the family and friends would absolutely understand.  They certainly wouldn’t want your intentions to show respect to result in an accident.



“For Everything There is a Season: Happy Thanksgiving…”

Happy Thanksgiving

“Perhaps no custom reveals our character as a Nation so clearly as our celebration of Thanksgiving Day.  Rooted deeply in our Judeo-Christian heritage, the practice of offering thanksgiving underscores our unshakable belief in God as the foundation of our Nation and our firm reliance upon Him from Whom all blessings flow.”

President Ronald Reagan

Thanksgiving Proclamation, 1986


All of us at Dengel & Son Mortuary

wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving


“For Everything There is a Season: It’s A Myth…”

How many times have you heard that funerals are the third most expensive purchase one will make in a lifetime?  That simply is not true.  The reality is that the average cost of a funeral is far less than weddings, cars, RV’s or even teeth implants.  And many of these purchases are made more than once, even weddings.  The average wedding costs more than $30,000.  The average cost of a full funeral with a vault is less than a third of that.

Funerals have many of the same elements as weddings.  They are both celebrations with flowers, food and special clothing.  Yet, in many ways, planning a funeral is more involved than planning a wedding and the funeral directors do it all in two or three days.

A funeral is a remarkable value when you consider the services that come with it.  A professional team and a beautiful facility are available at moment’s notice to help you create a beautiful celebration of life.


“For Everything There is a Season: Veteran’s Day…”

I saw this on the internet and thought, “How true.”

“It is the VETERAN, not the preacher who has given us the freedom of religion.  It is the VETERAN, not the reporter, who has given us the freedom of the press.  It is the VETERAN, not the poet who has given us the freedom of speech.  It is the VETERAN, not the campus organizer, who has given us the freedom to assemble.  It is the VETERAN, not the lawyer, who has given us the right to a fair trial.  It is the VETERAN, not the politician, who has given us the right to vote.”

Thank a veteran today for his bravery and sacrifice.  Thank his family for their sacrifices as well.  Show your gratitude by paying attention to what is going on.  Vote for candidates who make sure veterans get the medical care they deserve.  Insist bureaucrats and elected officials honor the constitution that veterans fought so hard to protect.  We owe that and so much more to them.


“For Everything There is a Season: Facing the Facts…”

According to the Department of Health & Human Services on their website LongTermCare.gov someone turning 65 today will have a 75% chance of needing some type of long-term care and support for their remaining years.  For some of us that means nursing home care and we all know how expensive that is.  It doesn’t take long to deplete your savings.

In Kansas, Medicaid will cover your nursing home care if your income is below a certain level and you have less that $2000 in assets, excluding your home.  The SRS will allow you to set aside additional funds for final arrangements and still remain eligible for assistance.

If you want to “hedge your bet” we will help you set aside funds for final arrangements that can even include a monument and still remain eligible for nursing home financial assistance from the SRS in case you need it.  Please note though, it needs to be in place before you need it.


“For Everything There is a Season: Pre-Funding…”

Most people not only want to relieve their families of the emotional burden of making funeral arrangements at a difficult time, they also want to relieve them of the financial burden.

If you choose to pre-finance your final arrangements there are several ways to fund it.  The most common ways are through a burial insurance policy or through The Kansas Funeral Trust.  Both are irrevocable and can only be used for final expenses.  If there is more in the policy or trust than needed, the excess is returned to the family if the deceased was not on public assistance.

Here are some questions to ask your funeral director to help you make the decision.  Is the prepayment ever refundable?  What happens if the funeral home is sold?  In the event that you move, is the pre-funded plan transferable?

If you are interested in finding out more, please call and we will meet with you and discuss your options.


“For Everything There is a Season: A Parent’s Grief…”

There is no grief comparable to a parent’s grief when their child dies.  There is no greater pain.  For those of us who have not experienced this tragedy, we can only imagine.  It is something we don’t even want to think about.  It is a parent’s worst nightmare.

Parents who have lost a child tell us they want to talk about their child and they want friends to listen.  Hold their hand.  Be there for them.  What they don’t want to hear is comparisons to other deaths.  To them, there is no death comparable to their child’s death.

They want you, their friend, to be patient.  There are times when emotions well up and overwhelm them, sometimes long after the death.  They want you to stick with them.  They know it isn’t always pleasant, but they need your friendship and understanding now, more than ever.  In time they will learn to live with their loss, but it is something parents never get over.